Ruined it romantically or platonically? Because those are two different things. Although sometimes one can lead to the other, I guess.
I get the anxiety. Even so, I recommend you just talk to him. Otherwise, you may begin to pine, and pining only ever exacerbates issues. You might start getting inappropriately jealous and insecure. I did with my ex Jake before we were even dating and that was some of the bullshit that inevitably spoiled our relationship.
Some part of it also relies on you having faith in your relationship with him. It's a delicate situation, sure. But he is probably just as nervous about fucking shit up with you, you know? Even if not romantically.
Plus, like, for real? That shit will spill out eventually. Best to do it under your control rather than out of your control.
No offense taken, it does seem to be an entirely predictable outcome here. You yourself have fallen into the same trap, haven't you?
Platonically, in this case, as strange as that may be. It was back home. We were friends for years, and then we started to walk very different paths, and it was like we forgot how to be friends after all that time. Working against each other, instead of with. I suppose I am afraid less of the pining and more that I'll reach too far and ask for too much, and end up in the same place.
I know that I should be strong enough to handle that, a life without Yuri, but.
Do you speak from experience, here?
About the pining, I mean.
If not, then I suppose you're just very wise and good at giving smart advice!
I don't think any of us are really ready to handle a life without the person we love. Like, for real, between you and me, if Kaneki just up and vanished from Folkmore, I'd be a motherfucking nightmare. Heartbreak is rough.
Yeah, I do speak from experience. I'm a goddamn pro at pining, dude.
I'm also very wise and good at giving smart advice.
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Ruined it romantically or platonically? Because those are two different things. Although sometimes one can lead to the other, I guess.
I get the anxiety. Even so, I recommend you just talk to him. Otherwise, you may begin to pine, and pining only ever exacerbates issues. You might start getting inappropriately jealous and insecure. I did with my ex Jake before we were even dating and that was some of the bullshit that inevitably spoiled our relationship.
Some part of it also relies on you having faith in your relationship with him. It's a delicate situation, sure. But he is probably just as nervous about fucking shit up with you, you know? Even if not romantically.
Plus, like, for real? That shit will spill out eventually. Best to do it under your control rather than out of your control.
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Platonically, in this case, as strange as that may be. It was back home. We were friends for years, and then we started to walk very different paths, and it was like we forgot how to be friends after all that time. Working against each other, instead of with. I suppose I am afraid less of the pining and more that I'll reach too far and ask for too much, and end up in the same place.
I know that I should be strong enough to handle that, a life without Yuri, but.
Do you speak from experience, here?
About the pining, I mean.
If not, then I suppose you're just very wise and good at giving smart advice!
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I get that. Fucking up an already good thing.
I don't think any of us are really ready to handle a life without the person we love. Like, for real, between you and me, if Kaneki just up and vanished from Folkmore, I'd be a motherfucking nightmare. Heartbreak is rough.
Yeah, I do speak from experience. I'm a goddamn pro at pining, dude.
I'm also very wise and good at giving smart advice.
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Dirk, have you ever felt the way you do about him about anyone else? The person you were pining over before, maybe?